Many times we have the intention to change our bad habits and do the best we can.
Of course the goal is not to fail and continue with the new good behavior. So I’m going to tell you how to deal with a relapse when building good habits, keeping you on track and not allowing you to fall at this hurdle.
Not a dry decision
I was talking to one of my clients and I have developed a tremendous respect for her. She is very sincere about her relapses. She is doing her best to change. I know this because of the way she communicates and the honestly she put in her words.
Can you do better?
While she has lost 10 pounds in 4 months, she can do better and she knows that.
The best thing about it is that she knows her relapses and she is not giving up and not feeling bad about it. She knows that it will take time for her to master her habits.
She told me that when she relapses by eating the wrong foods she gets back on track within the next couple of days.
The belief that makes us give in
While it sounds common sense, many people give up because they relapse and they think that they never are going to be able to make it.
They think that whoever has good habits make a decision and never relapses. This belief makes most people to give up.
My point here is that you must understand that changing your habits is not an overnight endeavour. It takes time and you need be patient and forgiving about the relapse.
The next step
I asked my client if she thought about her next step on healthy eating. Interestingly enough she said that she has been trying for more than a month now and she is not getting it together yet.
The “next step” is to start praying, meditating or feeding herself positive feedback.
What happens with people who relapse and give up is that they tell themselves negative feedback such as, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m never going to make it,” “To H@#% with all this,”, “I can’t do this.”
When we do the opposite and rely in a Superior Power, or Positive Source, we start changing our behavior within us and our mindset.
We can pray, ask, meditate when we wake up and ask for things how we expected to happen, “Today I’m doing my best,” “ I know I’m know I can do this,” “Let me have the strength to overcome adversity,” “I know I can do better this time.”
When we start with positive thoughts, little by little we make small changes helping us succeed with our goals.
So, yes while changes can be seen as easy for some people or hard for some others, all depends on what we say to ourselves and what energy we attract to us.
Be as aware of your thoughts as what you’re eating
Therefore, it is very important that you are very aware about your thoughts just like you are aware about the food you are eating.
We act as we think and our lives are the reflection of our actions. So it does not matter how long it takes you to change your habits, you must continue feeding yourself positive thoughts and forgiving yourself.
You become strong enough when you have changed your thought pattern and rely on a Positive Source stronger than we are.
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