We all know the importance of setting goals to help us to be even more successful in life.

Yet, what is also important and often overlooked is the aspect of friends to help us achieve what we want to achieve. Let us explore the importance of friends and how they can make a positive difference to achieving your goals.

Smart, long term goals

Goals provide you with a clear picture of what your long-term vision is, effectively what you want to achieve and by when.

By having SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely) goals, you then have a focus as to where you place your attention, your actions and your efforts.

This can translate into more rapid success and progress when all your actions are geared towards and supporting you achieving your goal.

How to plan… backwards?

When you set your goals, try the backward planning goal-setting process. This process is much like when you are standing at the bottom of the mountain wondering how you will make it to the top.

The view from the bottom might appear daunting, challenging and you wonder how you are going to reach the top.

However, when you are standing at the top of the mountain and look back, you more easily see the steps you took to get there.

The backward planning goal-setting process is where you start with a clear idea of your end goal and then work backwards to develop your plan. Imagining vividly what things are like when you have achieved the goal.

Then, from that end perspective and looking backwards, you can more easily see what steps you took to get there and can map out the milestone goals you need to reach along the path.

Imagine milestones

Making a plan of the milestone goals helps you to know what actions you need to take and by when you need to take.

Planning can also help with identifying what outside resources might help you along the way. One of these resources might include your friends for their support, encouragement and accountability.

So let’s explore this ever so important aspect of your friends helping you to achieve your dreams and your goals.


Friends can help you as you are setting your goal. Each time you talk through your ideas with friends (or anyone who will listen), you become more clear on things.

friends to acheive goals_2Plus everyone may have a thought, a question or even a suggestion for you to consider which add up to more clarity on what you want to achieve and what actions you need to take.


An important element for achieving your goals is to have support and encouragement along the way.

Sometimes we can all find it tough to find the motivation to keep on going and to keep on taking action. With friend’s support, they can provide that support and that encouragement.

They can be the ones to remind you of the reasons why are doing all this hard work and putting in all this time and effort. Friends can remind you of the benefits you are gaining both along the journey towards your goal and once you actually achieve your goal.


Another important aspect of having friend’s support is a sense of accountability. Being accountable for your actions is a powerful motivator for most every person.

When we commit to taking action and commit to a specific date when that action will be taken, it is human nature that we want to stand by our word and do what we will say we will do. Therefore, much like a client and a coach, you can let your friends know what you are doing and by when you are doing it, and then ask them to check in with you to make sure you are on track


Generally, our friends want us to achieve what we set out to achieve so it will be highly likely that they will ask, in a friendly way, how things are going and what is happening with that big goal.

These opportunities to update friends on your progress is an opportunity for you to take stock on all the actions you have taken and all the progress you have made.

It is also an opportunity to acknowledge the successes you have achieved and those feel-good feelings can fuel you for even more action.

Choose your cheerleaders

On a final note, make sure you chose the right friends to achieve your goals with with, who will be supportive, encouraging and be a strong sounding board to help you to achieve your goals. You want cheerleaders around you, so avoid any critics.

Overall, sharing your goal ideas with friends brings added energy and excitement to take whatever actions you need and to achieve that goal! So, start sharing and see how you can be even more motivated!

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