I am proud of the people who stay in marriages and relationships a lot longer than most
As many people know, the divorce rate is right around 50% these days and a lot of couples are choosing to wait to tie the knot because of this alarming statistic.
I can’t say that I blame them with the smallest shortcomings calling for breakups so easily between fighting couples.RELATED: RECOMMENDED PLANS FOR YOU
Everyone has different tolerances in life and certainly an issue is what one will put up with when dating the significant other.
What constitutes a break up for you?
There are numerous factors; lying, cheating, the other having no ambitions, no job or career, continual broken promises, deceit, they travel too much, selfishness, narcissistic behaviors – the list goes on.
Only you get to decide when enough is enough and who stays in your life.
Relationships take a lot of work, dedication, time, effort, happiness and genuineness. It is a given when we do not feel like faithful or loving, the other person will naturally believe they are disregarded.
When we enter into a partnership with someone we care about, we subconsciously have certain expectations of that person.
When these expectations are not met we become resentful, or worse, hateful towards our other halves.
We have negative feelings and connotations attached to disappointments even if expectations were not communicated clearly. It is a natural way of feeling towards someone when they make promises and the promises are broken continuously.
When to end a relationship
Begin by asking yourself, what are deal breakers for you?
Stick to those limitations.
I suggest listing on paper or in a journal what you will NOT tolerate and make sure you hold yourself accountable for your own happiness and serenity.
We should strive to live the greatest life with the people who breathe life into us, not take the wind out of our sails.
If they don’t fill your heart with love, believe in you or add value to your life in ways you want them to – you have the power to take action!
We deserve the best partner that fits us perfectly for the qualities we cherish and when we constantly feel broken instead of whole, we should seriously evaluate what steps to take to feel the way we need to feel.
We must make the people we care about a priority in our life before they become a choice.
Regret is not something we need to add to our repertoire of dealing with our relationships we thought should be working great in our life.
Take it slow
I recommend taking it slow at the beginning. Try to be precise about what you expect from others, be healthy when you enter new relationships, be respectful and give what you want in return.
Deal with past scars from relationships and emotional baggage first, then allow the goodness to enter, and there will be a greater increase of chances of having love that last forever!
These simple suggestions should lead you to and continue to foster the loving relationships you seek and desire.
Know that you will also have to give in order to receive and be persistent with the moments that bring you joy. This is in order for the attraction of desire and ensuring you stay for the long haul.
Believe in you and your successful marriages and relationships throughout life.
Stay true to you and always be authentically yourself, never compromising your values and morals to fit someone else’s.
This will hopefully be a recipe of true love!
Connect with Expert Kelly Benamati.