I am actually laughing right in this moment… I have no idea how important hair is to men, but I know is very important to women. And when I take care of my hair, some of my clients let me know how great it looks.

What we focus on is what we see and what we pay attention to the most. Every morning when I am getting ready to work, I make sure I am using my uniform and it is clean. Another important part of my appearance is my facial hair. When I am finished my perception of me is that I look great, professional and attractive.

It is not after I have my morning assessments when I notice that my hair is a mess. I feel embarrassed. It is not a big deal I believe, but if I do notice it, everyone else can.


When I was younger and I did not lift weights my perception of me was still that I was a strong man. It was not until years later that I went through some pictures that I found that I was very skinny and weak.

Success comes in many forms but a constant human question remains, ‘What is the secret of success?’ And an eternal human endeavour is to achieve success.

But how do we answer that question and how to we achieve that goal? There is no simple answer but there are some solid facts that underpin our efforts to go in the right direction.

I heard a story of a personal trainer who helps her new clients to find out how much extra weight they are carrying by asking them to lift some heavy dumbbells and walk around, sit and get up with them. When they notice how hard it is to do that, they usually start crying or they get surprised because they never thought it of that way and never noticed how much extra weight they carrying every day.

The realization came after external intervention.

I have many clients that don’t recognize themselves in their before picture. They never though they let their bodies go so far. They usually think of themselves as a different person.

Sometimes I have some clients who thought they were in shape until they try one of our sessions. Then they find out they are ready to change!

In a past article I explained how frogs are cooked. Don’t worry there was a proper point to it!

If you drop a frog in boiling water, the frog will jump as high as possible to escape the heat. However, if you set the frog in room temperature water and slowly increase the heat the frog will boil. The reason is because frogs can adjust their blood temperature to the environment temperature.

We humans can be just like frogs. Bear with me on this…

We get adjusted to our environment, this is the reason why many people can’t believe why a woman stays around despite the constant threat and actual cases of domestic violence. But it’s like the temperature raising scenario.

The husband begins by raising his voice, next comes insults, next a small push, next a harder push, next a slap, next a punch and when she noticed, she is getting beat and she needs help. All this happens slowly.

secrets to success_3We often can’t believe what is happening in others lives because we see it from other prospective

We can see the frog getting cook, the woman getting abuse and the person gaining weight. They can’t be feeling it because they are getting accustomed to it without even taking the time to think what is happening. Of course the frog has the potential to sit and meditate its life, but we do!

I’m not free of sin, this is the reason why I love criticism

I never take it wrong and I love it when people find my mistakes and I constantly ask what can I improve because I know I am blind to my own pot of hot water.

Of course, the frog does not want to be cook to death, the married woman does not want to be beat up and the overweight person does not want to gain weight. All this happens on a subconscious level.

I don’t know about you, but I have been there many times, when people abuse us, when we are the results of our environment, when we are in danger and don’t even notice it. What has helped me many times is to sit and contemplate my life and take capable people’s criticism in a positive way.

I don’t want to be overweight, sick, abused, manipulate or anything that will contribute negatively to my life. I want to succeed, be free, enjoy a good health and body, help and live the life I want.

If you want to do the same I recommend to set some time aside and for one hour to study your past, present and future and find out if where you were, are and will be. Things are not going to change unless you change and do something about it. Doing this will help you free yourself from the environment that is taking your life slowly just like the nice warming up water is taking the frog’s life.

Remember – taking responsibility for your actions will set you free!

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