Does that seem like a heavy title to you? I guess it might do but, like anything, it depends on your point of view!
Here’s the thing – do you know what holding on to grudges and bitterness does to you?
You see when something bad happens to you, say a fight with a loved one or a bad experience at work, what often happens is that you might be carrying round this feeling with you, holding on to it, but the other person (or people) are getting on with their lives and so it’s only you that continues to be hurt.RELATED: RECOMMENDED PLANS FOR YOU
Words are powerful things, not just the words you speak out loud to others but the words you use to yourself.
Keep beating yourself up about something – you know what I mean. “Why did I say that” “why did I do that” blah blah blah…
All you’re doing is literally prolonging the agony. Carry it round for years and it can have a significant effects on your life
Just supposing you had a break up with a lover, a severe heartbreaking split and accusations were hurled, words were said and now they have gone off and you’re left nursing your wounds.
Well maybe that was years ago and every time someone gets close to you, you remember those words and you step back, put up a wall round you and vow never again because it was too painful.
Can you see how this might in fact stop you from having the most wonderful new relationship?
You’ll never know if you don’t try. And that’s the thing. You have to move on.
It’s not just about forgiving the other person but forgiving yourself. A very important step in the letting go process.
So often you’re much harder on yourself than you are on others. Learning to forgive yourself, accepting who you are, warts and all is a very real part of moving forward.
So you have to learn to forgive first and then let go because the only person it’s hurting is you. And actually one follows the other. Once you’ve forgiven, the letting go is easy. There’s no need any more to hold on to the anger or hurt.
You see you can’t re-live the past and you certainly can’t go back and change it.
But you can look at it with different eyes!
Change the perspective. You did what you did (or said) with the best information you had at the time. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but if you never made mistakes life would be incredibly boring and samey.
So try looking at that incident, situation or whatever in a new light. Try looking at it from the other person’s point of view. I’m not saying they’re right I’m just saying perhaps you can make it easier for yourself.
Like I say we can’t change the past and tomorrow isn’t here yet, we’ve only got now and your thoughts will affect your health, your life, your world.
So change those thoughts. You know what? You are great and whatever happened in the past, happened. So in order to lead a full and great life you need to be at peace with your past.
Did you know that thoughts affect your emotions which in turn can lead to action or inaction. If you change how you perceive a situation you can move forward. Because that’s the only way to go.
Holding onto grudges and bitterness can seriously damage your health. And I don’t say that lightly. I am perfectly serious.
If you spend your life thinking negative and unhappy thoughts, going over all the past stuff that has been done to you, playing the blame game, then your life will never get better.
Let it/them go, they don’t serve you. Just say to yourself it happened. It is what it is. If someone else is in the scenario, say in your mind “it happened, I release you with love and let you / it go”.
It is not easy but it is simple
It’s a release mechanism that will enable you to move forward and that’s what you need to be doing.
I can show you an effective process that will have you letting go of those situations, grudges and bitterness, a way to release the hurt that you might be carrying around with you. And a way to forgive yourself
All you need do is connect with me at Adrienne Marks Me Time
Request your own Mastery Discovery Session and let’s get rid of those grudges and bitterness so that you can lead the life you are meant to, free from the hurt and pain and you are able to move forward in a light and easy manner to be who you are meant to be.
You don’t need fixing, you’re great as you are but in order to believe that you have to forgive yourself Grudges and bitterness leave a sour taste learn to live a sweet and loving life.
When you give out goodness that’s what comes back to you, and unfortunately the opposite is true too. When you live in dark and bitterness you give that out and it will be returned to you. What you focus on increases.
Contact me at Adrienne Marks Me Time
And change the grudges and bitterness to sweetness and light – it’s the way your life is meant to be
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