Ask yourself, honestly, are you mistaking comfort for happiness? It is quite easily done. Good question eh?
Are comfort and happiness the same thing? So often you see ‘happiness’ as this goal, idea, so far away and when you’re in the comfort zone, it’s exactly what it says – comfortable. Like an old pair of shoes, or slippers. Not like the 6” heel stilettos that are gorgeous, very expensive and not that comfortable at all.
A bit like life really…
Sometimes you go along with what’s happening in your life because it’s the easiest option, right? Moving out of the comfort zone can be uncomfortable and scary. So much safer to not rock the boat, stay where you are.
But you know what? Life is too short for that. You have to leap occasionally. No one laid on their death bed and thought ‘I wish I’d been safer and more secure’.
A favourite quote of mine by the late, great Hunter S. Thompson – “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
Now I’m not necessarily advocating living to extremes, but to live rather than exist in the comfort zone is what I’m saying.
Making yourself happy whatever that means to you.
Are you on the old hamster wheel routine of life, same things same people same food? You need variety in your life anything else leads to madness!
That’s why holidays are so much fun right? It’s being somewhere that’s different from home, possibly being waited on, having someone clean your bathroom, going out all day and coming back to find the beds made and clean towels in the bathroom, eating different food, maybe even talking to different people, exploring markets, towns and cities which are not like your own, maybe even driving on a different side of the road!
That’s fun. And there’s nothing to say that when you get back home you can’t extend the fun times.
It’s just a matter of perspective.
One night a week go a date night with your partner. One night cook a different meal. One Saturday afternoon go visit a local museum.
Why do you only do these things two weeks of the year? Why not do them at home? Add a bit of variety to your life, make your life a holiday, why not?
Isn’t life too short not to? Of course it is!
Enjoy it, make happiness your goal for your family, kids, friends and yourself of course.
I’m not saying that you should do this every day but occasionally, maybe the weekends when you’re all a bit relaxed. Give up on the Saturday chores, the food shopping and go off for the day to the seaside. Go have Sunday lunch with friends.
Make life matter!
Life Is Not Measured By the Number of Breaths We Take, But By the Moments That Take Our Breath Away
That’s true – that’s what you remember from a holiday, from a time with friends, good conversations, good food, fun, laughter, love. And that’s what happiness is.
Being grateful for everything in your life will bring more good stuff in. It’s the law – the Law of Attraction
That’s what happiness is – your friends, your family, people. It’s not the money or the house, or the ‘stuff’ you acquire.
Happiness is so much more than you think
It is simple things like talking to your partner, sharing an ice cream, or a glass of wine, or a cup of coffee, getting a seat on the train in the morning, a parking space near the door of the supermarket.
That might sound silly but that’s what life is all about – the moments of simplicity.
Don’t settle for less. It’s so easy to change it. It’s your perspective if you think life is good, it will be, if you think it stinks or is a struggle it will be.
Happiness is not the elusive thing people make it out to be. It’s there for you. You just have to see it, believe it and trust the universe to bring you more of it.
Enjoy what you have, give up the comfort zone and be happy. It’s so simple!
Change your thinking change your attitudes change your perspective and happiness will be yours.
Let me know how you get on.
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