Interesting thought? My first reaction to that question has got to be a resounding ‘yes’ but I would also add the multi million dollar slimming industry to the blame list.
Any time there is something that makes a person feel ‘less’ than they are is bound to be negative for them.
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There are a lot of people out there who have confidence, believe in themselves, their abilities, the way they look. Whether it’s as a ‘skinny minnie’ or a more ‘cuddly’ version. Some people are just OK with whatever they have, whoever they are. And that’s great for them.
However there are an awful lot of other people who do not have confidence in themselves, or the belief in themselves.
And it’s those people that pictures of slender bodies, celebrities looking hot with great ‘beach bodies’ and even their neighbour who never seems to diet but always looks fab.
The power of advertising
There are constant ads on TV about smoother skin, smoother bodies advertising absolutely everything that is guaranteed to make you feel truly awful and then of course they’ll advertise yummy looking food and before you know it you’re back in the kitchen eating and then of course you’re feeling guilty and even worse when the next round of commercials come on.
And you might not be very overweight but it’s how you see yourself compared to those ‘perfect’ faces and bodies that are so often air brushed anyway.
You see it’s all down to how you see yourself
And it does go back to all those limiting beliefs you received as a child.
Up to the time we’re 7 years old we’re like little sponges. We take in all sorts from parents, teachers, siblings, friends, even our environment.
We take in ideas and beliefs about whether we’re capable, or pretty, or good looking, or clever or how much money we ought to have, where we live, and a hundred and one other things that goes to make up ‘us’.
Then we take these ideas and beliefs and we build on them at school, at university, at work, in our relationships. And we act on them, sometimes to our own detriment.
Body dysmorphia is much more than a lack of confidence
It can seriously affect your health and in turn affect the rest of your life.
If you feel that you’re ‘ugly’ or ‘fat’ or defective in some way this can so often lead to anxiety and then to depression and the unfortunate side of that can be serious stress related illnesses.
So the only way to change those feelings is to change your ideas about who you are and what you are.
This might seem like a very trite thing to say but speaking as one who spent a good part of her formative years feeling fat and ugly with no real emotional support to make me feel any better, I learned the hard way how to overcome these feelings which in turn changed not only how I saw myself but also how I really looked. That was the magic.
Because you see thoughts are very powerful.
What you think about you become
It’s a fact. But like any habit it has to be consistent. Thoughts become feelings. Feelings become actions and Actions become your life.
So if you think good stuff then good stuff will happen to you!
If you worry about anything you go over it thousands of times a day, over and over and over. So you need to do the same with this.
Take your ‘Me Time’
If you feel, for whatever reason, fat and unlovely, and unlovable or you’re lacking in confidence, by telling yourself that you love and accept yourself you are starting to change your thinking.
If you go into a quiet place and listen to your breathing. Just 5 minutes a day.
Take a bit of Me Time, and chill, relax.
Really listen to your heart and really listen to who you are, what you are and what you want in your life.
This is so powerful.
If you start to do this 5 minutes a day and when you hear those negative thoughts popping in say ‘I love and accept myself exactly as I am’.
Shut out unwanted thoughts
If you hear those negative things, maybe when you’re getting ready in the morning and you look in the mirror and the first thought that comes to mind is “oh god look at my stomach”, or “I’m fat”, or just “look at me, what a mess”.
If you think of these thoughts like unwanted strangers, pretend you have a switch at the side of your head and literally turn it off.
Turn the switch to ‘off’ and replace it with “I love and accept myself exactly as I am” and keep saying it.
And you know what you’ll find?
That somehow (and I don’t claim to know how it happens, it just DOES!) you will lose weight or inches or your face will look less stressed or you’ll suddenly be eating foods that will help you lose weight and inches and makes you feel better.
It is a miracle.
It is magic.
And like I say I have no idea how it happens it just does.
(I mean if you asked me how the lights in my house work or the power in my laptop works I’d tell you I have no idea but I know that when I switch the lights on or press the power button on the laptop they come on)
It’s the same thing. Really it is!
Believe in yourself
Keep telling yourself you’re lovely, lovable, slim, energetic, healthy, your relationships are great, you have the love of your life, great friends, whatever it is you want in your life will all start occurring because you will be believing in yourself.
Try it. Try it for 3 weeks. Just 21 days. Every day say I love and accept myself exactly as I am and see how your world changes. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain.
And let me know!
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